Sunday, September 05, 2010

"I don't know what to say"

I've been thinking about this...
"I don't know what to say"
It's been used frequently over the last few months.
Either directly or through a third party.
Directly, it's OK.
I can accept it
Because often enough
We don't know
What to say.

But, actually
It hurts
If it's through a third party.
Especially if we have had no contact whatsoever from the other person.
A family member.
A friend.
A colleague.
Surely to say something is better than to say nothing?
To show that you are thinking of us...
To show that you care...
You don't have to understand what we are going through.
You can even admit it:
"I can't begin to understand what you are going through..."
"I don't know what to say, but we are thinking about you..."
By text, letter, email.
By card or flowers.
Just something...
To let us know
That you are thinking about us...

But what if you say the wrong thing?
Will we be hurt?
Will we judge you?
Maybe.
Perhaps.
But we will know that you are there for us
And that is all that really matters.
Because we are hurting.
Our lives have been turned upside down...
And sometimes
We feel so very
Alone.

And if you do say the wrong thing?
Is it necessarily wrong?
No.
Because it's difficult to know what to say...

No comments: